Disentanglement

This morning I was thinking about all the possible lies I have been believing regarding infertility. Lies are like cancer in my thought life, they spread undetected for a long time then finally you start to feel the symptoms. Once you realize the proliferation of the disease and how entangled it is with the good tissue by then its very hard work to remove the cancerous lies and to repair the damage they have caused. Praise the Lord that He is a healing God who is delighted to see me repent of my sins and my unbiblical beliefs and turn to Jesus and replace the lies with the truth of God.

The list of lies I have believed about fertility and infertility is about a mile long. I say this next thing with love and mercy, by the type of counsel I usually received about infertility these lies have spread every where even in the church, they are not uncommon at all. I long to see Christians in unity thinking biblically about every thing!


People who mean well, there just trying to help are usually telling me I need to do some thing to get pregnant instead of taking me to Jesus in my hour of need and showing me His tender mercies in the word. They tell me I should do this or do that, not do this, but try this and see this doctor, maybe if this area of your life was together ............ and then presto I should be pregnant, it worked for them. They often make me feel like I'm doing something wrong, its all up to me. Honestly there are only so many ways to skin a cat. I just wish people would stop with the advice......this has been a lesson for me as well!

I think Christians hate to see suffering, it's very uncomfortable. Jesus obviously suffered. They want to make it(the suffering) disappear in other people lest they have to look upon it, instead of loving them through their personal suffering. I pray that the Lord will help me to react to others comments meekly and with love. May I be gentle with them and may Christ honoring relationships develop and teach me how to love people and be hands and feet of Jesus to those in need.

Here are some of the lies that I believed.

1. I'm in control of my fertility.
***God is sovereign over life and death not me.

2. I should do everything in my power medically to get pregnant. (God gave us doctors, right?)
***God will decide if a medicine or procedure will work.....He is the one who even blesses our food to our bodies.

3. I'm a useless wife because I am unable to give my husband the children he now wants.
***God is teaching him to love his God given wife even though she can't supply something for him.

4. Other people are more blessed and special to God than I because they have many children.
***He blessed Christians and non-Christians. His common grace is wide. Pray for them.

5. Infertility is punishment for some past sin or sins.
***Maybe a consequence of past sins, however God is just and sovereign.

6. I will be a useless women to God if I'm not a Mom.
***God will help me and give me a meaningful role in His kingdom for His glory.

7. Come on.......I'm a way better person than that gal who has had an abortion and gets a "second chance" to become pregnant again when I've never been pregnant even once.
***I'm not a better person. There but by the grace of God go I. Pray for women who have had abortions.

8. I can't bear this burden its too much.
***God is all powerful

9. Maybe I can convince God that His plan isn't the best for me.
***Idolatry

10. God can't be trusted.
***He is the only one to be trusted! He made every thing and every thing belongs to Him.

I hate the fact that I have thought such cruel thoughts and untruths about God, others, an my self. But God in His infinite love and mercy is yoking with me and teaching me His ways and His thoughts. He is keeping me captive to Him.